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Beyond Appearances!

It was a busy Saturday afternoon when Clara received an invitation to an informal gathering at her friend Sarah’s house. A casual meeting, it promised an opportunity to reconnect with familiar faces and perhaps share a few ideas. Dressed in comfortable weekend clothes and devoid of makeup, she felt a twinge of self-consciousness. Still, she figured that her appearance wouldn’t matter among friends.

 

As she arrived, the warm atmosphere and friendly smiles greeted her. About fifteen people filled the cozy living room, and most of them were familiar faces. Among them, however, was a young woman named Lila, sitting a few feet away. Lila was impeccably dressed in the latest fashion, her presence radiating style.

 

After a few pleasantries, Sarah introduced Clara as the speaker. As she began to speak, she noticed Lila’s expression change abruptly. The young woman’s face twisted in what could only be described as disgust. That look clearly conveyed, “Why am I here to listen to this simpleton?”

 

That look transported Clara back to her children’s elementary school days, where she had often seen similar expressions from the “queen bees” of the class — those girls who ruled the social scene and looked down on anyone they deemed less than themselves. It was a look that had always hurt especially when it was directed towards Clara’s children, and it stung all over again.

 

Why did people so often judge others by appearances? Clara couldn’t help but wonder. She thought of how quickly we formed opinions based on race, gender, body shape, or even the size of someone’s house or car.

 

Yet, as Clara finished, she noticed a shift in Lila’s demeanor. The scowl faded and it was replaced by a more neutral expression. By the time Clara finished her talk, Lila stood up and approached her. “Hi, I’m Lila,” she said, her tone warmer now. “I really appreciated your insights. They were thought-provoking.” Clara was taken aback, both by Lila’s sudden friendliness and her earlier judgmental look.

 

“What if our perceptions are wrong?” Clara thought. What if she had misread Lila’s expression completely? Perhaps Lila’s initial reaction was not about her at all, but rather a reflection of her own insecurities or expectations.

 

As the evening went on, Clara found herself reflecting on the “queen bees” from her children’s school days. Where had they ended up? Were they still judging others based on superficial criteria, or had they matured into kinder individuals?

 

By the time Clara left Sarah’s house, she longed for a world where people could set aside their judgments and meet one another at the same level. A world where kindness reigned over the need to feel superior, where each person was greeted for who they truly were, beyond the surface. As she drove home, Clara smiled to herself, realizing that perhaps, just perhaps, the tides were turning toward a kinder, more understanding world.

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nm_markjacobsen
25 de nov.

Love your posts.

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